It would seem that these days there are a lot more obstacles in place for everyone. And it’s important to remember that if we are struggling, our children can also feel like they are up against it constantly. This is why we have to give our children the ability to overcome any obstacle. This may seem like a big ask, but what are some of the things we can do about this?
Providing the Right Tools
There’s a lot at play here, but the best way to give them the right tools is to step back and assess what their potential weaknesses may be. For example, if your children are having issues with reading, it’s important to make sure you rule out any potential problems like dyslexia. While there are many ways to learn how to help a child with dyslexia, we’ve got to assess those weaknesses first before we provide the right tools. And some of the greatest tools are those things that we all know, such as motivation, perseverance, sound judgment, etc. But we can’t give them the right tools until we address the key underlying issues.
Be a Sound Role Model
We have to remember that our children will learn about solving problems by how we deal with issues. We need to learn how to deal with obstacles. We also need to demonstrate to our children that problems many people prefer to give up if they experience a problem, but if you want your child to learn how to solve problems, you’ve got to learn how to solve them as well. Additionally, when you start to demonstrate the satisfaction that comes with solving a problem, this is a very important lesson your children will pick up on, and a very important part of the process.
Give Your Children the Opportunities to Practice
Many people hate problem-solving because they don’t know the best strategies to solve them. And our children need to learn how to overcome obstacles but they can only do this if we introduce the right obstacles that they can overcome. We need to teach them how to develop strategies so they can solve problems but we can do this in a supported environment. Asking your child to plan a family outing or allowing them to handle the logistics for an event could be a big ask, but you have to be age-appropriate. And when they solved the issue, you need to give them the appropriate praise.
Do Not Reinforce the Idea of Giving Up
Giving up is something we all feel we want to do because it’s easier. If your child feels tempted to give up you have to be encouraging and tell them that they will experience a great sense of satisfaction by hanging in there.
Provide the Balance
Sometimes, we can feel the pressures of everyday life, we are all prone to mistakes, and we all need assistance from time to time. The balance is all about asking for help if there is something that we have strategized but yet cannot solve.